12-Week All-In Recovery Basics Bootcamp

Week One

April 2, 2026

Reflect while we get started

What's one word that describes how you're feeling as you begin this program?

What would it mean for your life if things could truly be different?

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Today's Session

Introduction & The Relational Recovery System

Lesson 1.1

Welcome & Getting Started

Setting expectations, shifting mindset, and the formula for real change

Lesson 1.2

How Did You Get Here?

Understanding how relational brokenness drives the cycle of pain and coping

Lesson 1.3

The Brain Map

A three-layer map of your brain that reveals the roadmap to healing

Lesson 1.4

Order of Operations

Where we'll begin and why the sequence matters

Why This Matters

Before we can build something new, we need to understand how we got here. Today lays the foundation for everything ahead — the map, the system, and the reason change is possible for you.

Lesson 1.1 — Welcome & Getting Started

Three Mindset Shifts

01

It's a Pain Problem, Not a Behavior Problem

Compulsive behavior is a symptom. The real issue is unaddressed emotional pain. We heal the pain, not just manage the behavior.

02

Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome

Sobriety isn't a pass/fail test. This program gives your brain the repetitions it needs to rewire. Trust the process.

03

Information + Application = Transformation

Tools don't help sitting in the toolbox. This is not a passive course. What you learn only works when you apply it.

Lesson 1.2 — How Did You Get Here?

The Two Questions We're Always Asking

Our nervous system is constantly asking two core questions — often without us knowing it.

Rooted in Fear

"Am I safe?"

Will you be here? Will you protect me? Will you stay?

Rooted in Shame

"Am I seen?"

Do you love me? Am I wanted? Am I enough?

Lesson 1.2 — Where It Started

Your Family of Origin

Family System Map

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Caregiver 1

Modeling, attachment, safety

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Caregiver 2

Modeling, attachment, safety

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You

Developing nervous system — always reading the room

Safe?

Unsafe?

Seen?

Unseen?

Reflect

What was modeled for you about emotions, conflict, and connection?

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What was missing that you needed but didn't get?

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What did you learn about yourself in that environment?

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How did you learn to cope with pain or unmet needs?

Lesson 1.2 — The Roadmap

How Pain Becomes a Cycle

Relational Brokenness

Imperfect attachment — feeling unsafe or unseen

Core Wounding

Pain, shame, and fear hardwired into the nervous system

Behavioral Coping

Self-medication that temporarily relieves pain

More Pain & Shame

The "solution" drives deeper isolation

Lesson 1.3 — The Brain Map

Learning to Drive Forward

Your brain developed from the bottom up. Each layer builds on the one before it.

The "Adult Brain"

Prefrontal Cortex

Judgment • Impulse control • Empathy

The "Teen Brain"

Limbic System

Emotion • Reward • Craving

The "Child Brain"

Brainstem

Survival • Safety • "Am I safe?"

Lesson 1.3 — Why This Matters

All Gas, No Brake

The Inverse Relationship

The Loop

Pain + Pleasure = Relief

Without the "brake pedal," this loop gets reinforced over and over.

Your brain adapted to survive. Anything learned can be unlearned.

Lesson 1.4 — Order of Operations

Where We'll Begin

The course follows the map of your brain — healing in the most effective order.

1

Behavioral Coping

Prefrontal Cortex

2

Core Wounding

Limbic System

3

Relational Brokenness

Brainstem

What's Ahead

Ch. 2

Renewal Cycle

Building healthy routines and self-care to move you toward the life you want

Ch. 3

Addictive Cycle

Slowing down and intervening on the old unhealthy system

Bonus Tool

The Life Map

A dashboard mapping the key people, events, and experiences that shaped your story.

Age Events Positive Painful Impact

0 – 5 Family moves, sibling born Close to grandma Parents fighting Unseen

6 – 12 New school, bullying Soccer team Isolation, rejection Unsafe

13 – 18…………

19 – 25…………

26+…………

Open Life Map Spreadsheet ↗

Map Your Origin Story

Identify events and relationships that shaped your wiring — both pain and resilience.

Connect the Dots

See how early experiences connect to the coping strategies you developed later.

Build a Coherent Narrative

Making sense of your story is the best predictor of healing and secure relationships.

Apply This Week

Put It Into Practice

Relational Recovery System Overview

Map your own story using today's framework: relational brokenness, core wounding, and behavioral coping.

Start Your Life Map ↗

Begin filling out the Life Map spreadsheet — map the key people, events, and experiences that shaped your story.

Family of Origin Assessment ↗ Optional

An in-depth guided assessment to help you document your family history. Start here and transfer memories over to the Life Map.

View Full 12-Week Syllabus ↗

Prepare for Week 2

The Renewal Cycle

Watch these videos in the Relay app before next Thursday's session.

2.1 — Intro to Renewal Cycle

~4 min

2.2 — Deepening Focus & Building Your Why

~5 min

2.3 — Intro to Recovery Zone + Self Care

~4 min

Atomic Habits — Ch. 2: "Habits Shape Identity" Optional

14 pages

Can't Hurt Me — Ch. 2: "Truth Hurts" Optional

~1 hr audiobook

See you next Thursday.